Manners are a luxury everyone can afford. With knowledge comes self-confidence. Knowing how to behave is empowering. Manners, grace, charm are powerful business tools. If you know how to behave socially you will go farther professionally. Always having poise and dignity keeps you off “page six” and out of the tabloids and the nasty gossip mills. I think it is sad that these qualities are a gift less frequently bequeathed to our children. Parents do their children a great disservice by leaving them socially handicapped. Manners are just like rules of the road. Can you imagine driving where there were no traffic laws; the chaos and danger that would ensue? If you teach your children social rules they will be at ease in more situations and by knowing how to act they will be invited into more and more high powered arenas that can help them advance socially, personally and professionally.
Learning manners can be fun and if you know the root or reason for the social rule it helps you figure out how to behave when you are put into a situation that you are less familiar. You are able to reason your way through. If you were not taught these gifts you can learn them from books, lectures and other informational resources.
“Grace is enabling power sufficient for progression. Grace divine is an indispensable gift….for development, improvement, and character expansion. Without……grace, there are certain limitations, weaknesses, flaws, impurities, and faults humankind cannot overcome. Therefore, it is necessary to increase grace for added perfection, completeness, and flawlessness……Put another way, humankind is unable to evolve or be saved without….Grace.”
From the Wikipedia definition of Grace
Sadly, people that are not socially savvy, don’t seem to recognize their weakness and so they are the last to seek betterment. Celebrities with all the benefits of wealth, but not manners, are like train wrecks that the general population watches to see what calamity they will be involved in next. Lack of manners has them showing vivid close up of their private body parts as they climb out of luxury automobiles. Luxury with out grace is an oxymoron. Manners, politeness and grace should be practiced by all social economic groups but traditionally has been most cultivated in the wealthier tiers of society. Now with the wonderful advancement of so many people from poorer status to wealth, there is a need to make sure that grace and manners, shall we say rules for the road, are taught so that ciaos does not ensue. Luxury is not luxurious with out manners. With wealth there are responsibilities. The privileged are expected to know how to conduct themselves in polite society. By giving this luxury to our children we open the doors of opportunity and protect them from ridicule of vulgarity.